“New Year, New Me…” It’s something we hear all the time just before the first of the year. People hate hearing the phrase. The reality is that we think human beings are not capable of change. Truth is, we are. It takes a lot for a person to change. Something life altering has to happen whether if it’s a passing of a friend or family member, depression, a change in scenery, a change in who you surround yourself with, a change religious beliefs, so on and so on…
The common denominator is that there has to be an adjustment within the immediate things and/or people in your life in order to alter your perspectives. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable first, then you adapt, and before you are aware the change has taken place. Now the crazy part about it is that a clean slate is not limited to once a year. People are just that, people. Everyone makes mistakes; we revert back to old ways when put in old situations.
A lot of human beings in this world we live in are very predictable, not to say that is an issue but it can be frustrating because we always expect extraordinary. In order to be that we need to have an extraordinary mental capacity that pushes us to jump start that new journey we are striving for, a mental capacity that allows us to recognize when we are falling off into old patterns, a mental capacity that guides us to focus. One person can take a year and a half to get to the same point it took Jane Schmoe, who got there in five years. Now the luxury of time is a whole other episode I won’t get into just yet but when the time is being spent trying to focus on something that is important to you, its always time well spent…even if you fall off a few times.
Everything written here is based off of my experiences and my thoughts so of course I’ve coined the new me phrase. Honestly it never worked, I remained with the same soul however I did change a lot about myself. I used to hide all of my emotions, all of my opinions, all of my deepest thoughts. I just wanted to be the help. I wanted to be the people pleaser. Only about a year and some change ago I made the decision that something had to shake. I was unhappy with how I handled situations and lord knows I’m bad with verbal expression so I just decided to write letters, write text messages. It helped me a lot with expressing myself to others. However I did end up falling back in those old patterns and my communication when back down the drain. I was hurt by a response and it reminded me why I didn’t express myself to begin with, that lead to something even deeper. After some time though, I decided to try the same thing again. So I guess it’s not how many times you fail, and I guess it’s not how big or small the transformation is that you are trying to make. All that matters is whether or not you have the courage to regain your focus and try again. There is always a clean slate waiting for you if you have the drive to make a way for one.